THE SOUL
SPIRITUAL THRIVING
I believe that cultivating a connection to a higher power is the ultimate biohack. We can use terms like God, the Divine, or the Universe to describe this higher power, but the terms we use are irrelevant. It’s the connection to something bigger that matters. This is what Dr. Lisa Miller calls transcendent awareness, and as we will see, it can be an incredibly important component of our overall wellbeing.
Until now we’ve focused on linear growth through things like a healthy body, but this next section offers something more profound, which is the possibility of vertical ascension. Vertical ascension is a massive leap in awareness, presence, and joy. Some might call it an awakening.
This is where we begin to look at what science is now discovering about experiences mystics and saints have described spiritually for thousands of years. For example, there is legitimate scientific work being done at the University of Virginia Division of Perceptual Studies (DOPS), where researchers explore consciousness beyond the brain, including near-death experiences, children's past-life memories, and verified cases of non-local awareness. Or Dr. Lisa Miller at Columbia University whose research on transcendent awareness scientifically proves that a spiritual orientation to life greatly enhances mental health and resilience.
What I find so exciting is these ideas used to be considered fringe, but they are gaining ground in peer-reviewed science. We seem to be slowly moving away from the materialistic view that reality is confined to just our five senses, and that consciousness is solely created in the brain. There is significant proof that we are eternal, spiritual beings having a human experience.
When we can align our personality with our spirit, we experience more peace, more love, and more meaning. Personally, I know that when I live with soul awareness and a connection to a higher power, I feel more grateful, my relationships deepen, my fears diminish, and I move through the world with more trust and less anxiety.
And here is a great quote from Gary Zukav from a book called Seat of the Soul that sums up what I believe to be true about our souls. Zukav is a spiritual teacher I have deep respect for and someone I will come back to many times. “Your soul is an immortal, purposeful force at the center of your being. It is your essence. You are a powerful, creative, compassionate and loving spirit that has chosen to participate in the evolution of the human species. Your origin is not merely biological. Your experiences are not only physical. Your gifts are far more than they appear.”
This section of GratiJoy is dedicated to spiritual practices and perspectives that open the heart and connect us to something greater. Here are some examples of what you’ll find:
Evidence of the Soul: University of Virginia Division of Perceptual Studies Deep Dives: Exploring scientific studies that point to the survival of consciousness and the reality of the soul.
The Science of Spirituality: Insights from Dr. Lisa Miller on how spiritual practices rewire the brain and protect our mental health.
Heart Coherence: Practices developed by the HeartMath Institute that support emotional regulation and help cultivate a calmer and more heart centered state.
The GratiJoy Meditation Practice: A daily, healing practice I developed that fuses gratitude and joy through story telling and music.
A Series on Divine Love: The most powerful spiritual force we know, and how love can become the organizing principle of your life.
Spiritual Masters Series: Timeless wisdom from mystics and spiritual teachers across traditions. Listen here if you are ready to get started!
Evidence of the Soul
“The day science begins to study non-physical phenomena, it will make more progress in one decade than in all the previous centuries of its existence.” - Nikola Tesla
Before I start this section I want you to know that I am not trying to change anyone’s religious views. I’m just trying to present some fascinating evidence that we are more than our minds. That we are spiritual beings. And the reason I am presenting this information is because we know that a spiritual connection is scientifically proven to improve our mental health. In fact, current research proves that it could be the single most important factor in our overall mental wellbeing. But if you have strong views, are already convinced that you have a soul, and reading about things like reincarnation are just going to close you off, feel free to skip this section.
While I believe what I have written is compelling and carefully gathered evidence, there is still an enormous amount we do not know. In fact, the nature of consciousness and what happens after death remain among the greatest unsolved mysteries in human history. I am not here to wrap it all up in a tidy bow, but I am here to point toward the overwhelming evidence that we are spiritual beings. I also realize that I am taking an intellectual approach to something that can only truly be known from the heart.
At the same time, I think we all need to be aware that there is significant evidence that consciousness survives death, and that is what I present here. The proof does not present as one single study or a flashy headline, but as unrelated groups finding the same patterns again and again. When evidence piles up to that degree, from independent researchers across different cultures and decades all arriving at similar conclusions, the burden of proof starts to shift and completely denying a spiritual existence starts to look irrational. I think that is where we are now in this debate.
For many years I’ve been deeply curious about the question of the soul. Do we really have one? And if so, where do we go when we die? Do we reincarnate (some estimates show that 50% of the world believes in reincarnation), and if so, why? These aren’t just abstract ideas to me. They feel like some of the most important questions a human being can ask. My curiosity eventually turned into somewhat of an obsession: if the soul is real, I wanted to find the most legitimate evidence for it. That search led me to the top researchers in near-death experiences, past lives, and past-life regression.
When I first began this journey, I had no opinion on reincarnation. I just knew a large share of the world believed in it so I tried to remain open minded. I expected to find little more than speculation, but instead I was stunned to discover carefully collected data by serious scientists at respected institutions. The work of the University of Virginia’s Division of Perceptual Studies (DOPS) is especially remarkable. Over the past 60 years, Dr. Ian Stevenson and Dr. Jim Tucker have investigated thousands of children who recall past lives. In parallel, Dr. Bruce Greyson, also at UVA, has spent more than 40 years studying near-death experiences, publishing over 100 peer-reviewed papers. Here is a link to what all they do at DOPS. And beyond UVA, Dr. Michael Newton, a counseling psychologist, spent decades exploring “life between lives” through hypnosis.
Although I have read many books on these subjects, my recommended sources for this writing are below. I highly recommend checking these out if you are curious.
Life Before Life and Return to Life (Jim Tucker, M.D., UVA psychiatrist).
After (Bruce Greyson, M.D., UVA psychiatrist).
Journey of Souls (Michael Newton, Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology).
Tim Ferriss’ 2024 podcast with Bruce Greyson.
Taken together, these works make an astonishing case. We are spiritual beings, consciousness survives death, and our souls evolve across lifetimes. I realize these are bold claims, but I urge you to keep an open mind. One thing I find helpful is to think of some of the things that seemed unbelievable to our ancestors but now seem so obvious. For example, just over 100 years ago we thought human flight was impossible, even years after it had been proven. The Wright Brothers achieved sustained flight in 1903, but by 1907 many in the world thought they were frauds because major newspapers continued to openly mock them. Everything changed in 1908 when the Wrights finally agreed to public flights so the world could see it with their own eyes. Two weeks ago I flew over 14 hours non-stop to Dubai from Dallas while having access to the internet. My how things can change!
Paradigm shifts don’t happen overnight, and I believe we are in the middle of one with consciousness. I feel confident that my grandkids will look back on this materialistic era with disbelief that such a large percentage of the population believed consciousness was solely created by the brain, despite the fact that this has never been proven and that there has long been evidence pointing beyond such a narrow view.
Reincarnation Evidence
UVA's Division of Perceptual Studies (DOPS) has collected over 2,500 cases of reincarnation with roughly 70% verified as "solved." A case is only marked solved when the details are verified, and thousands have been. These are typically 2- to 6-year-olds who suddenly begin speaking about another life. They give names, describe family members, identify where they lived, and how they died. Investigators (Stevenson and Tucker) then verify the data from the family and friends of the "previous personality." They are contacted often as this is more common than you might think but only choose to investigate the most compelling cases. They have travelled all over the world to investigate these cases, and it’s important that they are able to find the family members of the person who the child is convinced they once were so they can verify details. Many of the stories are incredibly convincing.
I find it fascinating that 70% of the children they met with describe a violent or unexpected death, which suggests that trauma might provide access to remembering a past life. They also report a median time between death and rebirth to be approximately 16 months. And approximately 30–35% of cases involve birthmarks or birth defects corresponding to wounds on the previous personality. In a subset of these cases, researchers obtained medical records or postmortem reports documenting the original injuries.
One of the most striking contributions of Dr. Ian Stevenson was his monumental two-volume, 2,200-page book Reincarnation and Biology, which documents 225 cases with photographs of birthmarks and birth defects that match wounds on previous personalities. In many cases, autopsy or medical records were consulted. This remains the most comprehensive published body of physical evidence for reincarnation.
Some examples from the research:
Gunshot wound birthmarks. In 18 cases, children were born with pairs of birthmarks corresponding to entry and exit wounds of gunshots on the previous personality.
Patrick Christenson (U.S.). Born with a birthmark on his neck, a nodule above his right ear, and an opacity in his left eye causing blindness, which all corresponded to lesions on his deceased half-brother Kevin, who died of cancer. Patrick also walked with a limp, as Kevin had, despite no medical explanation.
Chanai Choomalaiwong (Thailand). Born with two birthmarks on his head: a small, round mark on the back and a larger, irregular one on his forehead. At age 3, he said he had been a schoolteacher named Bua Kai who was shot while bicycling to school. He named the village where "his" parents lived and led his grandmother there, where he identified Bua Kai's parents. Bua Kai's widow confirmed the doctor said her husband was shot from behind, with a small entry wound in back and a larger exit wound on his forehead. Chanai's birthmarks matched exactly.
One or two anecdotes can be brushed aside, but when thousands of children across cultures and decades give verifiable details, anecdotes become data. The point here is not to convince you of reincarnation. The point is to present evidence that we appear to be more than our physical body. I also recently listened to a Telepathy Tapes podcast discussing this subject, which is here, and I highly recommend it. I believe the entirety of Season 3 will be on the subject of reincarnation.
Near-Death Experiences
If reincarnation cases suggest that souls return, near-death experiences (NDEs) suggest where we go when we die. For over 40 years, Dr. Bruce Greyson, also at UVA DOPS, has been the leading scientific investigator of NDEs, publishing more than 100 peer-reviewed papers and creating the Greyson NDE Scale, the world's most widely used tool to study them.
NDEs are no longer rare. Due to advances in modern medicine and resuscitation technology, millions of people worldwide have now reported them. One large-scale NYU study of 567 cardiac arrest patients found that 4 in 10 survivors recalled some degree of conscious awareness during the event. Given how many people each year experience clinical death and are revived, this equates to millions of cases globally.
I find it fascinating how consistent the reports are. Experiencers often tell the same kinds of stories across cultures, ages, genders, and religions. They describe leaving their body, encountering overwhelming love, seeing deceased loved ones, undergoing a life review, and being told it was "not their time." I read Dr. Greyson's book After, which I highly recommend. Over decades of research he found the consistent patterns across thousands of cases, some of which I describe below.
A significant percentage of those experiencing NDEs report leaving their bodies. They often observe their own resuscitation from above with a level of accuracy that is difficult to explain through conventional neuroscience. Professor Janice Miner Holden found in a review of 93 out-of-body cases that 92% of the perceptions were completely accurate and only 1% were completely wrong. These patients were not only unconscious, they were in many cases clinically dead, yet they were able to describe medical procedures, instruments, and even conversations in the operating room with uncanny accuracy.
Here are two examples I found interesting from Greyson’s book. In one, a patient described watching her surgeon flap his arms like a bird before operating on her. Greyson followed up later and the surgeon confirmed this was how he dried his hands to keep them sterile before surgery. In another example, a woman named Maria in a Seattle hospital in 1977, during her NDE, insisted she had floated outside the building and seen a dark blue tennis shoe sitting on a third floor window ledge. Social worker Kimberly Clark Sharp went to check and found the shoe exactly where Maria described, in a spot that would have been extremely difficult to see from inside the building. The case has been studied and debated for decades, but no one has offered a convincing explanation for how a patient lying unconscious in the ER could have known it was there.
Greyson also reports that encounters with deceased loved ones or beings of overwhelming light and love can be common during an NDE. Greyson reports a few cases where the experiencers encountered people whose deaths they could not have known about at the time. One man described meeting his sister during his NDE. She told him it was not his time yet. When he recovered, he learned she had passed away unexpectedly just hours before his cardiac arrest. In another example, a young mother reported being greeted by her grandmother, only to discover afterward that her grandmother had died that very day while she was still in the hospital. In over a thousand NDE cases, Greyson reports that there is not a single example of someone erroneously meeting a person who turned out to still be alive.
Another common trait we see in NDEs is a life review. The experiencers relive events from their lives from both their own perspective, but also the perspectives of others. They often report feeling the exact emotional impact their actions had on the people they affected. The vast majority describe their NDE as more real than ordinary waking life. In fact, it’s common to hear the phrase that their NDE was “realer than real.”
We also often see long-term behavioral changes in those who experience an NDE. It’s common for experiencers to report a loss of fear of death, increased compassion, improved relationships, and a reduced focus on material success.
But Dr. Greyson is a legitimate scientist so he remains cautious. He does not declare NDEs proof of life after death. He presents the evidence and leaves it up to the reader, which I really appreciate. However, I find the consistency, prevalence, and accuracy of these accounts impossible to ignore. As Greyson has noted, whatever NDEs are, they change people's lives faster, more profoundly, and more permanently than psychotherapy or medication. When I add it all up, from Greyson’s books and all the NDEs I have studied (and there have been many) it suggests that consciousness probably does not end at death. It appears that at the time of physical death our consciousness actually expands, encounters love and deceased loved ones, reviews its life, and often comes back transformed.
If you are curious to learn more, and to hear directly from people who have experienced profound near-death experiences, I recommend exploring the Coming Home Channel on YouTube. They also have a great Instagram page. They present dozens of high quality, first-person NDE accounts, many of which echo the same themes described in the scientific research.
Journey of Souls: Life Between Lives
While UVA's work focuses on verifiable external evidence, Dr. Michael Newton contributed another perspective in his books Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls, which are both absolutely fascinating. Newton held a doctorate in Counseling Psychology, was a certified Master Hypnotherapist, and a member of the American Counseling Association. He eventually became the founder of the Newton Institute for Life Between Lives. Newton was a serious medical professional who was skeptical of anything metaphysical. He accidentally encountered a case where a client under hypnosis described not a past life, but the spiritual world between lives. He became curious and began to use hypnosis on other clients to access this spiritual dimension. Over decades he collected reports from more than 7,000 clients.
His clients consistently reported the following (notice some of the overlap with NDEs):
Deceased loved ones greeting them after death.
Being greeted by spirit guides, which appear to be wise beings assigned to each soul. According to Newton’s work, these guides appear to remain with us throughout all of our incarnations, and they provide guidance during our lives on earth and in the spiritual realm.
Life reviews with wise beings or councils.
Healing stations of light to restore energy after difficult lives.
Soul groups, which are clusters of like-minded souls who reincarnate together as family or friends.
The soul plans new lifetimes in order to revisit unresolved lessons or to accelerate spiritual growth.
Newton also discusses at length what he calls The Hierarchy of Souls. He developed a framework of spiritual development based on patterns he observed in his client sessions. From these reports he proposed levels ranging from I to VI, which map the soul's growth over many lifetimes:
Level I–II: These are beginner souls who are often struggling with fear, selfishness, and immaturity.
Level III–IV: These represent intermediate souls who are learning compassion, balance, and responsibility.
Level V–VI: These are advanced and master souls, often serving as guides for others. He reports finding very few of these, but the advanced cases he does report on are absolutely fascinating.
Each spiritual level seems to reflect greater wisdom, vibrational energy, and a capacity to love. And interestingly, each level appears to present as a different color. Beginner souls are white and the most advanced appear to be a deep purple. Souls seem to advance through persistent growth across many lifetimes. Newton's conclusions echo what many spiritual thought leaders like Gary Zukav have said, which is that the purpose of reincarnation is the evolution of the soul. Life is a school, and we are here to learn and to master love and compassion.
I know how “out there” some of this can seem, and it did to me too at first. So let's address the skepticism that most likely comes up for all of us. Here is my thought process after reading his books and researching Newton’s background. Could Michael Newton have just made this up for personal gain and notoriety? Almost how a writer can use his imagination to create a novel. It’s of course possible, but I found this unlikely as there are no documented fraud allegations against Newton personally. I also try and keep in mind that he held a doctorate in Counseling Psychology, as well as his decades as a therapist, and his membership in professional associations. These all make this unlikely.
But maybe the majority of his 7,000 clients all unconsciously created similar stories under hypnosis. Critics of hypnosis often and rightly raise this possibility, noting that descriptions provided by clients under hypnosis can be influenced by their preconceptions, cultural beliefs, or even the therapist's suggestions. So this is definitely possible, but Newton himself began as a skeptic, and he was surprised when clients started describing the same kinds of "between lives" experiences without prompting.
Across decades of work, people from different cultures, religions, and backgrounds consistently reported remarkably similar themes: guides, soul groups, life reviews, and planning future incarnations. While his findings cannot be "proven" in the same way UVA's reincarnation and some NDE cases can, the consistency of his clients' reports makes them compelling. Just like in NDEs, the anecdotes and consistency start to look like evidence.
A Theory of Everything
I recently came across a podcast episode that I want to share because its conclusions align so closely with the evidence I had already found through my own research. The Mighty Pursuit podcast spent eight years studying eleven separate scientific fields spanning 134 years of evidence, and this podcast synthesizes it all into nine conclusions. I highly recommend listening to the full episode titled How Science Finally Proved the Afterlife, and you can find it here. What follows is an AI-assisted summary of those nine conclusions based on the podcast transcript.
The mind and the brain are not the same thing. The evidence suggests that consciousness is not produced by the brain. It is actually more likely that it is filtered through it. This is supported by near-death experiences, where people accurately describe events far outside the reach of their physical senses. Terminal lucidity evidence provides additional evidence, which is when patients with severe neurological decline suddenly regain full mental clarity shortly before death.
Once consciousness leaves the body, it appears to enter a highly structured and consistent realm. We see similar patterns and evidence across near-death experiences, psychedelic research, and leading theories about unexplained phenomena.
This other dimension operates under different rules. Time is not linear but experienced as a single, expansive moment. Communication does not happen through language. It happens telepathically through an immediate and direct transfer of meaning.
There is an intelligent, loving, and relational presence. Across near-death experiences, controlled psychedelic trials, and studies of genuine spirituality, people consistently report encountering an overwhelming, intelligent presence defined by unconditional love.
Deceased loved ones persist beyond death. People routinely describe reunions with recognizable deceased relatives who retain their distinct identities and memories. This pattern appears in near-death experiences, end-of-life visions in hospice care, and verified after-death communications.
Human consciousness is not the only intelligence interacting with reality. Encounters with guides or others in near-death experiences strongly imply that human cognition is not the only intelligence that exists.
Reality has a moral structure. During the life review phase of near-death experiences, people do not simply replay their lives. They feel the exact emotional impact their actions had on others. Psychological science echoes this, showing that anxiety and inner conflict grow when our external actions violate our internal values. We are wired for moral coherence.
The purpose of life is love and connection. Data from near-death experience life reviews and decades of happiness research converge on the same conclusion: true meaning comes from self-giving love, service, and belonging, not from accumulation or status.
A genuine spiritual life significantly improves wellbeing. Even setting aside the extraordinary claims, the data shows that an internally lived orientation toward the transcendent buffers against despair and correlates with better mental and physical health. The most important aspect of spirituality, they conclude, is not the spectacular. It is the ordinary, day-to-day growth in character and love.
The episode closes with a metaphor from a documented near-death experience that I found quite profound. Living in the physical world is like navigating an enormous dark warehouse with a flashlight. You only see what the beam hits. Dying and entering the next dimension is like someone finally turning on the lights, which allows you to see the vast and interconnected tapestry of reality in full clarity for the first time.
The strictly materialist model of reality, which is the belief that the physical world is all there is, appears to be incomplete. Intellectual honesty requires us to adjust our worldview in light of converging evidence.
This is really good news…
When I add up all of the research and reading I have done over many years…Stevenson and Tucker’s 2,500 reincarnation cases, Greyson’s decades of NDE studies, Newton’s 7,000 life-between-lives sessions, and the Mighty Pursuit podcast research across multiple disciplines, the conclusion is profound:
We are much more than our bodies and brains. We are spiritual beings.
Consciousness appears to survive death.
Our lives are part of a larger curriculum of growth and love.
This is really good news! Life is not random and death does not appear to be the end. Moreover, unconditional, Divine love, which is the overwhelming force described by near-death experiencers and by souls in Newton’s sessions, appears to be a fundamental part of the fabric of reality. Saints and mystics have been saying this for thousands of years, and parts of the scientific research community are finally catching up.
Pause for a moment and let the weight of this sink in. The awareness that I am an eternal being and unconditionally loved by the Creator of All has completely reshaped my outlook on life. I now see myself as a participant in the "earth school," here to grow, to face fears, and to evolve, which means working to become a more loving, kind, and patient human being.
We all have a spiritual core, and we have access to it right now. Not after years of practice or some distant awakening, but now. We just need to quiet down and remember it. As Peter Crone puts it, "The essence of where we are looking from is what we are looking for." The connection you seek is not somewhere out there. It is the very thing doing the seeking. What an amazing time to be alive, when science is beginning to confirm what the soul has always known.
I know all of this may sound a little far-fetched at first, but when I reflect on the vastness and mystery of our material universe, it actually feels quite reasonable. Think about it. The universe has existed for nearly 14 billion years, with perhaps 2 trillion total galaxies, many containing hundreds of billions of stars. Scientists believe we have between 100 and 400 billion stars just in our own galaxy. We still don’t know how many, and this is our own galaxy! And physicists admit that dark energy, which makes up roughly 70% of the cosmos, is something we don't really understand. If reality itself is filled with such scale and mystery, is it really such an intellectual leap to imagine a complex spiritual dimension? Whatever force or intelligence created this universe surely has the creativity and capacity to craft a complex and beautiful spiritual realm as well. And just as the biological world evolves, it makes sense to me that our souls would evolve too.
But what if none of this is true and the materialists are right? What if the lights simply go out, and there is no soul and no greater meaning to our lives? Even then, because of my spiritual worldview, I will have spent my life striving to be more loving, compassionate, and grateful. My relationships with family and friends will have been deeper with my days richer in joy. And that is the true upside of spirituality…more love, more gratitude, more joy, with almost nothing to lose. Contrast this with the alternative, which is living as if everything is random, meaningless, and often rooted in fear. Which path creates a more beautiful life?
It is in this spirit that I return to Gary Zukav’s timeless reminder from Seat of the Soul, a book I will discuss at length later. “If you desire to know your soul, the first step is to recognize that you have a soul. The next step is to allow yourself to consider, ‘If I have a soul, what is my soul? What does my soul want? What is the relationship between my soul and me? How does my soul affect my life?’ When the energy of the soul is recognized, acknowledged, and valued, it begins to infuse with the personality.” The sections that follow will present information and practices on how to access your soul while navigating this beautiful human existence.
And here is a beautiful tribute to the soul’s enduring light and one of my favorite songs. Soul Sweet Song by Tedeschi Trucks Band.
Lisa Miller, PhD: The New Science of Spirituality and the Awakened Brain
Dr. Lisa Miller is one of my heroes. She is a psychologist, researcher, and professor in the fields of spirituality and mental health. She earned her BA from Yale University and her PhD in clinical psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. She currently serves as a professor at Columbia University, where she founded and directs the Spirituality Mind Body Institute, which is the first Ivy League graduate program integrating spirituality and psychology.
She is one of the most compelling people I have found who works at the intersection of science and spirituality, a combination that is gaining more attention. I first discovered Lisa's work through her powerful conversation on the Rich Roll Podcast, which you can find here, and I loved what she had to say. It’s actually one of my all-time favorite podcasts, and I have listened to many. Her message resonated so deeply with me that I immediately began reading her book The Awakened Brain, which weaves together neuroscience, epidemiology, clinical psychology, and great story telling. Her research presents compelling evidence that a spiritual orientation is biologically innate in all of us and may be the most important factor in our mental wellbeing. Below is a synopsis of some of her most important messages from both the book and the podcast along with some quotes from her.
Miller's essential claim is revolutionary but also ancient. Based on her scientific research, she claims that we are all born with a neurological capacity to experience connection, love, meaning, and guidance from a transcendent source, and that we can also develop and practice this capacity in our lives. This makes common sense to me because if we are spiritual beings here to grow, learn and love, a divine creator would obviously grant us the ability to experience the gift of spiritual connection and transcendent awareness. Miller calls this capacity the awakened brain, and her research shows that when we actively engage it, we become more resilient, less depressed and anxious, and more fulfilled.
But we’ve been primarily trained in a materialist focused world to focus on what she calls our achieving brain. This is what I spent most of my adult life cultivating, and it’s the part of us that gets things done. There is nothing wrong with improving this part of us, but our intuitive and spiritual lives need to be trained too. She writes, "The awakened brain is the inner lens through which we access the truest and most expansive reality: that all of life is sacred, that we never walk alone." She repeats the phrase ‘we are never alone’ often throughout the book and the podcast.
She begins the book with some statistics on mental health that I had heard before but remain as shocking as ever. “Thirty-one percent of adults will develop a full-blown anxiety disorder at some point in their lives.” And that “The World Health Organization reports that 264 million people on the planet are depressed; depression is the is the third most costly disability worldwide.” And then she moves into some statistics on adolescents and young adults, which is a demographic I spend a lot of time with. “A study of more than 67,000 college students across 108 institutions in the United States published in 2019 found that 20% reported that they had engaged in self-harm, 24% reported suicidal ideation, and 9% had attempted suicide.”
She hypothesizes that the same part of our genetic wiring that carries the risk for depression also carries the capacity to be spiritually aware. She goes on to say, “What if the condition we diagnose as depression is sometimes actually spiritual hunger—a normal and genetically derived part of human development that is unhealthy to muffle or deny?”
The Neuroscience of Spirituality
Miller's lab conducted groundbreaking fMRI and EEG research to study the brain activity of people having a spiritual experience. In one study, participants were asked to remember personal spiritual and transcendent moments. Examples included feeling connected to God, the universe, or life, and she found consistent neural signatures across all spiritual traditions, including those with no tradition or religion at all. The area of the brain responsible for self-focused rumination, which becomes overactive in depression and anxiety, became quiet. At the same time, the networks associated with awareness, receptivity, love, presence, and connection all became more active.
Miller also documents that highly spiritual individuals show greater cortical thickness in regions associated with perception and reflection. These are the same regions that shrink in depressed brains, which means that a sustained spiritual life appears to be structurally and biologically protective over time.
Miller's research also reveals correlations between personal spirituality and reduced rates of mental illness, and I want to be clear that these findings come directly from her published research. These are not anecdotal. Adolescents with a strong personal spirituality are 80% less likely to experience clinical depression, even when factoring in genetics and family environment. Adults at high risk of recurring depression show 75% to 90% protection when spirituality is part of their lives. Rates of completed suicide are 62% to 82% lower when spirituality is practiced in a group setting. And teens with a strong spiritual life show significantly lower rates of substance abuse and addiction. As Miller has said, “nothing else in clinical or pharmacological mental health, no drug, no talk therapy, comes close to these levels of protection.”
If someone took only one thing away from this entire GratiJoy site, I would hope it is this data. I find these findings deeply important, not only scientifically, but also personally. They align closely with my own experience in Alcoholics Anonymous, which is a deeply spiritual program that completely changed my life as it has for millions of others suffering from addiction. I will write more on this later, but 12 step programs suggest that healing from addiction does not come solely from abstinence or willpower. What really seems to be effective is developing a transcendent relationship with a higher power. She writes, "When we awaken, we feel more fulfilled and at home in the world, and we build relationships and make decisions from a wider view."
Miller is not afraid of including what some might call the more mystical dimensions of her work, but she grounds everything in both personal experience and science. Her central message, repeated throughout The Awakened Brain, is this: “we are loved, held, guided, and never alone.” Spiritual perception allows us to tap into a loving consciousness, whether one calls it God, Source, the Universe, or simply Life.
She also dedicates a section of the book to quantum physics and Carl Jung’s work to explore synchronicity. She gives a high level overview of quantum entanglement in which subatomic particles have been proven to be connected at a distance. Since humans are made up of particles, and if particles are interconnected across distances, couldn’t humans be connected and entangled too? She makes a convincing argument that spiritual awareness enhances our perception of these improbable yet meaningful synchronicities that seem to guide us when we are paying attention.
She writes how long-distance hikers often speak of trail angels, which are strangers who appear at just the right moment with food, water, or encouragement. She reminds us that life works this way too. We can encounter trail angels on the trail of life, and even more importantly, we can become them by choosing to offer kindness and support that may arrive for someone else at just the right time. This reminds me of what Dr. Bruce Greyson has found in his research on near-death experiences. During life reviews, people often relive moments when they were a source of help or comfort for another, and they don't just recall the event, they actually feel what the other person felt. So being a trail angel is far more than a kind gesture. It can be an important part of the meaning we create around the shared experience of love and connection in our lives.
She writes, "There is a rhythm and intelligence to the universe, and when we awaken, we can see it. We can trust it. We are never alone."
Practices for the Awakened Brain
Miller provides us with some ancient and interesting practices for cultivating the awakened brain that remind me of what you will learn in the GratiJoy practice section here. She discuses spiritual storytelling, which is the practice of recalling and sharing transformative moments. She says that this helps activate the neural pathways associated with transcendent experience. She also explains the Council Exercise, which invites us to visualize loved ones, ancestors, or our Higher Self, offering support and wisdom. Synchronicity tracking is another one I have practiced by keeping a note on my phone. We simply pay attention to and record meaningful synchronicities, and this trains the mind to notice the guidance that is already present. And studies seems to show that the more aware we are of synchronous events, the more synchronous events we see. She also recommends spending time in nature as it soothes us and reconnects us to the life force and intelligence of the natural world. And lastly she discussion altruism, which is the love of neighbor. According to Miller's research, kindness and altruism (think trail angels) represent the single most powerful neural activator of the awakened brain.
Lisa Miller's work is a fascinating bridge between the lab and the soul. She reminds us that the awakened brain is a birthright available to all of us. The source of that awakening or the name we give it doesn’t matter. What matters is that we allow ourselves to experience it. For some this connection comes through religion. For others it arises completely outside of organized religion. In fact, many who identify as spiritual but not religious still believe in a higher power or a creative intelligence, but they resist rigid definitions of God. Some like me often draw from multiple faiths, and include in their practices things like meditation, contemplative prayer, yoga, nature-based spirituality, or insights from psychology or neuroscience. Someone’s higher power might be understood as God, the natural world, the intelligence behind the natural world, or just something greater than ourselves.
I remember being surprised when I first started attending AA meetings by how many people were uncomfortable with the word God. The original creators of AA knew this so they offered for those individuals to consider choosing the group itself as their higher power. I found this so interesting because what keeps a healthy group together is love. And many people, myself included and those who have experience a near death, define the energy of God in the same way. God is love.
Heart Coherence
The journey I’m on is about cultivating both a quiet mind and an open heart. It’s relatively easy to grasp the concept of practicing how to quiet the mind through practices like meditation, breath work, and mindfulness, but what does it actually mean to open the heart? And how do we practice that?
In 2024 I took a course called The Science of Love taught by Rollin McCraty, Ph.D., a psychophysiologist and Director of Research at the HeartMath® Institute (HMI). That experience helped answer these questions in a way that deeply resonated with me. I learned that there are scientifically studied techniques we can use to elevate our level of consciousness and expand our capacity for love. Rollin teaches that “The vibrational spectrum of love enables you to heighten your capacity for compassion, kindness, latitude, love, and more—for yourself and others—on an energetic level.”
The course was fascinating, and even better, the practices were easy to incorporate into daily life. Since applying them I’ve felt an increase in love, gratitude, compassion, and intuitive clarity. In what follows I’ll distill 20+ hours of course material into a short read, covering what heart coherence is, the science behind it, and how you can start practicing it.
The Scientific Definition of Heart Coherence
Heart coherence is a state of optimal alignment and harmony within and between your physiological, emotional, mental, and energetic systems. It’s most easily observed in the synchronized rhythms of your heart, brain, and nervous system. In measurable terms, heart coherence refers to a smooth, sine-wave-like heart rate variability (HRV) pattern. This state 1. Reflects balance between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems. 2. Enhances cognitive clarity and emotional stability. 3. Is most easily achieved through intentional breathing while generating positive emotional states like gratitude and/or compassion.
Spiritual Dimension:
On a spiritual level, coherence feels like alignment with your higher self, inner wisdom, or a universal intelligence. It brings peace, presence, and connection, both internally and with the world around you. Practices like heart-focused meditation help us access this deeper coherence, which in turn cultivates intuition, resilience, and emotional elevation.
Simple Heart Coherence Practice
I practice this multiple times per day: In meditation, during a walk, or even silently in a meeting. I personally add it as the second half of my meditation and take several short coherence breaks throughout the day (I set reminders on my phone).
It can be as easy as this step by step process:
Ground yourself and feel your feet on the ground. Connect to your body in some way.
Heart Focus: Gently shift your attention to the area around your heart. Imagine your breath flowing in and out of this space.
Heart Breathing: Breathe slower and deeper than usual. (Remember from the breathwork section that the perfect breath is 5.5 seconds in and 5.5 seconds out) Find a comfortable rhythm.
Activate a Renewing Emotion: Call up a feeling of care/love, compassion, appreciation, or gratitude. Radiate that emotion inward toward your body or outward to someone you love. Let your intuition guide you.
Sustain the Feeling: Stay with it for a few minutes or just 5–10 breaths. The more consistently you do this, the more natural it becomes.
I have found that this meditation can significantly enhance intuition, which I believe to be the voice of the non physical world. So after each meditation I like to ask my soul what do I need to know today, and then I quietly listen. Sometimes I hear nothing but sometimes I get a strong download. If you read this piece, you know I received a very important message after a heart coherence meditation about generosity, which set off a chain of events that changed my life and the future lives of many others.
This practice integrates mindfulness, but with the added dimension of emotional resonance. It shifts your physiological baseline over time, making it easier to stay calm and connected even in challenging moments. I sometimes do this silently in groups, intending to “broadcast” care and compassion to those around me. I love how much benefit I receive from such a short, simple practice. This is yet another practice that has nothing but upside.
The Science Behind Heart Coherence
Ilya Prigogine, Nobel laureate in chemistry, described how “small islands of coherence in a sea of chaos can shift the entire system to a higher order.” This principle applies not just to physics, but to human biology and consciousness. Just as Prigogine’s “islands of coherence” can influence and reorganize chaotic systems, practices that promote heart coherence, such as focused breathing and the cultivation of positive emotions, can help harmonize our physiology.
Over time this coherence supports emotional and physical well-being, including a greater ability to self-regulate our emotional state. The ability to self-regulate emotions, thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors is central to most of the stress related health challenges and relationship issues that people experience. Building the capacity to self-regulate is one of the most important things I am personally working on, and it will be a lifelong process. Here are some reasons why the heart is important in helping to regulate our emotions:
The heart has its own complex nervous system and sends more signals to the brain than vice versa.
These heart signals influence brain regions involved in emotion, decision-making, and perception, especially in the amygdala, which synchronizes with the heart’s rhythm.
By practicing heart coherence, we “reset” this system and create a new emotional baseline, improving our ability to self-regulate in real time.
Energetic Field of the Heart:
Each heartbeat produces a measurable electromagnetic field that radiates 3 to 6 feet from the body in a toroidal (doughnut-shaped) form.
This field reflects your emotional state in real time. Love, gratitude, and compassion create a smooth, coherent field. Stress and fear create a jagged, incoherent one.
Studies show that your heart’s field affects others. In emotionally bonded relationships, heart rhythms can become synchronized, even from a distance.
This means we are contributing to a shared vibrational environment of love and coherence, which are collective forces, but so are negative emotions and vibrations.
Global Impact
HeartMath research has shown that shared states of coherence can influence others, even across great distances. In one global study participants practicing a technique called Heart Lock-In experienced synchronized heart rhythms despite being located in different parts of the world. This suggests we’re all part of a global field, which is basically a living web of energy shaped by our emotions and intentions. The more we consciously cultivate positive emotional states, the more we elevate not just our own lives, but the collective atmosphere. That’s what makes heart coherence such a powerful and beautiful practice. Heart Math even has an app that you connects people around the world to meditate together. You can find it here.
Advanced Heart Coherence Meditation
For those who want to go deeper, here’s a more immersive version of the practice. By the way, I like to use this song during this part of my meditation
Posture: Seated, spine straight, feet grounded, hands resting on heart or lap
Optional Enhancements: Calm music, HRV monitor, essential oils, or crystals
Step 1: Heart-Focused Breathing
Focus on your heart.
Inhale for 5–6 seconds, exhale for 5–6 seconds.
Imagine light flowing in and out of your heart with your breath.
Let your nervous system begin to entrain to this rhythm.
Step 2: Activate a Regenerative Emotion
Call up a deep emotion such as love, compassion, or gratitude.
Let it saturate your chest. Expand it with your breath.
Step 3: Expand the Field
Visualize this emotion forming a glowing field around your heart.
Imagine the circular flow of energy looping around your body
Feel it strengthen and connect to the Earth’s field.
Optionally send this coherence to loved ones or the planet.
Step 4: Intuitive Listening
At the end of the practice, ask a heartfelt question:
“What do I need to know?”
“How can I serve today?”
“What is most true in this moment?”And when I do get an intuitive feeling our thought, I like to ask, “How clean is this?”
Listen with your body, not just your mind.
Step 5: Integration and Closing
Return gently to your body and surroundings.
Give thanks to your heart.
Carry the coherence into your day.
Optional Tools
I highly recommend the HeartMath Inner Balance device. It measures your coherence in real time and helps reinforce the practice with biofeedback. You can find it here: https://store.heartmath.org/inner-balance-coherence-plus.html
It’s not cheap, but if you're serious about opening your heart and deepening your intuition it’s a good investment. I’ve used one for years. To learn more about the science and tools behind this practice, I also recommend visiting the HeartMath Institute website.
Final Thought
I’ve spent many hours studying and practicing heart coherence, and I’m convinced that the energetic heart is real. I believe it’s a primary access point to the soul. Many spiritual traditions emphasize choosing love over fear, and heart coherence is a practical, repeatable way to do exactly that. During the course, it was inspiring to hear others share their experiences of more synchronicity, clearer intuition, and deeper peace.
The bottom line is that 1. We can practice being open-hearted. 2. We can broadcast feelings like love and gratitude. 3. We can change the field around us one coherent breath at a time. What a blessing.
GratiJoy Practice
I define GratiJoy as a divine, open-hearted state of gratitude that culminates into a loving vibration of joy. GratiJoy is more than just a concept or an elevated state. It’s a practice that can be improved upon, and this is good news. Neurologically it shows up as gamma brain waves, but spiritually it is a prayer of thanks to the Creator. Practically it’s a loving kindness meditation on steroids. At its core, GratiJoy carries with it reverence and awe, a quiet astonishment at the sheer gift of being alive.
GratiJoy is also about frequency and vibration. Frequency precedes form, which means the vibration of our state of being comes before our thoughts and behaviors. When we shift our frequency to gratitude and joy, our entire outlook begins to change. This practice is a deliberate way of raising that frequency into love and connection. And once we begin to practice and improve upon this state of being, it becomes easier to access. I practice GratiJoy every day, and now I fall into this state often and with far less effort. The neural pathways have been strengthened through repetition, like well-worn trails through a forest, so instead of my mind defaulting to anxiety or scarcity, it more naturally settles into gratitude and trust.
My son once asked me if I had a super power. At first I told him I didn’t think I had one. I was decent at a lot of things, but not truly exceptional at any single one. Later it struck me that even with some of my mental health challenges, I am naturally wired toward gratitude. The GratiJoy practice is what I have learned to help me cultivate and refine that gift. I first stumbled into this state on a bike ride, but later discovered it could be cultivated intentionally. Here is how I learned that and why it matters.
Gamma Waves
I had a really interesting and beautiful summer in 2023 while at my ranch in Colorado. I had been studying quite a few different spiritual teachers and had become fascinated with the topic of Divine Love, which I was reading about often. And I was also having daily spontaneous GratiJoy experiences on my bike rides and my hikes. I would be walking in the woods behind my house, and I would begin to feel how much God loved me and how grateful I was for my life. These experiences are hard to describe but they were overwhelmingly blissful, joyous, and based in gratitude. This is when I coined the term GratiJoy.
Fast forward to an evening over dinner with close friends, and I described how these waves of deep gratitude and joy had been coming over me, leaving me with a sense of being connected to something vast and loving. The wife of a close friend of mine, who happens to be a neuroscientist and owns a small company specializing in EEG brain scans, listened carefully. She suggested I come in the next morning to her clinic to see what was happening in my brain when I entered that state. I was curious so I agreed. I was also unsure if I would be able to access the GratiJoy state on cue.
The following morning I went on a ride through the Colorado mountains. It was one of those perfect days on one of the most scenic rides in the state. I had several bursts of GratiJoy during the ride, which left me primed and open as I arrived for the scan.
She fitted me with a cap of electrodes, and I sat quietly as the machine recorded. About ten minutes in, she asked me to see if I could conjure up the state I had been describing. I had never tried to summon it deliberately before, but almost instantly I dropped into it. My chest expanded, light seemed to pour in, and the familiar warmth of GratiJoy filled me. During this part of the scan, I heard her say, “My God” several times. I was instructed not to speak so I remained silent and curious.
When the session ended, she looked at me quietly and explained what she was seeing. During the period when I entered that state, my brain showed sustained gamma wave activity for several minutes, which is something she said she doesn’t often see, even in people with significant meditation experience.
I don’t pretend to fully understand what that means neurologically, and I’m cautious about over-interpreting it. I only know what it feels like, which is a deep sense of gratitude, connection, and joy. After a long pause, she said, “You should teach this. People need to know how to access states like this.”
Gamma waves are the fastest brain rhythms (30–100 Hz, sometimes higher). They link different parts of the brain together, allowing insights and memories to converge into what we know as “a-ha!” moments. Normally, these bursts last only seconds.
But research by Richard Davidson and Antoine Lutz at the University of Wisconsin showed that advanced Tibetan monks could generate massive, synchronized gamma activity across their whole brains while meditating on compassion, and hold it for minutes at a time. One of the monks in that work, Mingyur Rinpoche, was asked to engage compassion while researchers watched. Activity in his empathy circuitry rose by around 700 percent, a jump Davidson described as beyond what the science could account for. Across the group of practitioners studied, gamma activity averaged roughly 25 times that of the control group. Gamma has since been called a neurological signature of mystical experience: a measurable imprint of states people describe as transcendent, blissful, or sacred.
Gamma also shows up in flow states, which are moments when athletes, artists, and musicians lose themselves in effortless performance. Creativity, insight, unity, and presence all seem to ride on gamma waves. Even more compelling, Davidson and Lutz found that in seasoned meditators, this gamma coherence persisted even at rest. In other words, their practice had changed their baseline neurology.
So when my friend showed me my data and insisted I share my experience, I realized I had stumbled onto something that combined science and spirit. Neurologically we call it gamma, while spiritually I think you can call it grace. But I wanted to figure out how to quickly access this state without the need for a bike ride or hike in the mountains.
Before we move into the next section, here’s a short video to prepare you to be GratiJoyous. Think of it as a primer to open the heart, and a great way to step into the GratiJoy practice. It’s only five minutes and trust me, it’s well worth the time. Watch here
My Daily Practice
Over months of experimentation, I found a way to access the GratiJoy state in the comfort of my own home. It doesn’t require a long hike or bike ride, although I often experience spontaneous GratiJoy bursts when I am in nature with a high heart rate. Below is what works for me, and as you will see later, this practice is backed up by some of the latest science on an effective gratitude practice.
1. Priming the System
Before I begin the actual GratiJoy practice, I spend about 10 minutes priming my nervous system. This includes a session of Wim Hof breathing, followed by a HeartMath-style heart coherence meditation (described above). These help me move into a coherent brain–heart state and prime my neurochemistry for what’s to come.
The Wim Hof method gets my system energized and clear, while the HeartMath practice helps me shift into a calm, open-hearted state. By the time I start the GratiJoy visualization, I’m fully present and physiologically aligned. But if you are short on time, you do not need to do the breath work.
2. Choose a Powerful Story
Find a moment in time or a person that is meaningful to you. Humans are meaning makers so pick a story that elicits enormous gratitude. I think it can be helpful if you have photo that goes with the story. One that generates strong feelings of love, gratitude, or joy. Below is my photo. I'm two years old, standing beside my grandmother, who was one of the most important people in my life. She taught me to love the natural world and, more importantly, made me feel deeply unconditionally loved and accepted. Just looking at this image gets me very grateful, very quickly. It also likely captures one of my first moments of being in awe by the natural world.
Credit to one of my greatest heroes, Mr. Rogers, for this idea. I consider him one of the great spiritual masters of his generation. He often invited people to reflect on someone who “loved them into being.” Here’s a beautiful 1-minute video of him doing just that.
3. Add Music That Opens You
Choose a song that evokes similar emotions. My go-to song is I Can Feel You Smiling by Tedeschi Trucks Band. Listen here.
My body is grounded after the breathing and my mind is calm after the meditation. I then gaze at the photo, close my eyes, and let the music take me into memory and emotion. I visualize my grandmother with outstretched arms, smiling down on me. I picture golden light filling my body. I feel her love, and sometimes invite family and friends into my field of gratitude and compassion. Not every day, but most days I become overwhelmed with gratitude and joy. This sure feels like a mystical experience to me, and I believe this state is healing. It makes common sense to me that if we know scientifically that stress is detrimental to our physiology, why wouldn’t a state like GratiJoy prove to be the opposite? I’ve done this most mornings for almost two years, and while I cannot prove it, I am convinced this has strengthened my immune system.
While the feeling of GratiJoy is lovely, I’ve learned not to chase it by putting too much pressure on myself. When it arrives it’s a gift, and when it doesn’t that’s okay too. What matters is the practice, because each time we practice GratiJoy I think we reveal more of our soul, and with practice the doorway opens with greater ease.
The Science of Why This Works
As Dr. Andrew Huberman explains in his podcast on the science of gratitude, the most effective gratitude practices aren’t just lists. They’re stories of emotionally rich experiences in which you feel love, appreciation, or the receipt of thanks. That’s what makes them biologically potent.
Here are a few of the key takeaways:
Real emotional stories (not lists) are what shift our biology.
Gratitude increases dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin, which are the neurotransmitters linked to joy, focus, love, and creativity.
Gratitude reduces amygdala activity, which decreases fear and anxiety.
Gratitude decreases inflammatory cytokines, sometimes on par with exercise.
Gratitude improves empathy and social connection even beyond the specific gratitude target.
Huberman also notes that cyclic breathing can help regulate the nervous system to support a gratitude practice. I use Wim Hof breathing, but he says even simpler techniques like box breathing or physiological sighs work. A physiological sigh is a double inhale through the nostrils followed by a slow exhale out of the mouth, and according to him it quickly restores balance and calm.
Dawson Church came at this from a different direction in his book Bliss Brain, but also uncovered some interesting scientific data. He describes a similar meditation to the GratiJoy practice mixed with heart coherence.
He explains that when we stop concentrating on a task, the brain does not go quiet. A set of regions called the Default Mode Network kicks in and often produces rumination about the past and rehearsal of future threats. This is what is called Monkey Mind, and it’s why sitting still can be difficult.
A small randomized trial of his method, run by Peta Stapleton and neuroscientist Oliver Baumann, found reduced activity in exactly that self-focused region after four weeks of daily practice, along with stronger connectivity between the hippocampus and the insula, an area tied to kindness and compassion. It was only 24 people, so I hold it loosely, but it matches what the GratiJoy practice feels like.
There is also evidence that the kind of meditation we do matters, and there is compelling evidence that loving kindness, heart focused meditations in particular have the most health benefits. At the Max Planck Institute in Leipzig, Germany, Tania Singer and her colleagues ran a nine month study with around three hundred people. They divided the training into three separate three month modules. One taught attention and breath awareness, what most of us think of as mindfulness. One taught compassion, gratitude, and loving kindness. The third taught perspective taking. Then they put everyone through a standardized laboratory stress test and measured what happened in the body.
All three kinds of training made people report feeling less stressed, but only two of them changed their physiology. Attention training alone (Presence) produced no reduction in cortisol response. Compassion training alone showed about a 32% reduction in cortisol, and compassion following attention, which is similar to the GratiJoy practice, reduced cortisol by about 48%.
Attention training is clearly valuable and I use it every morning as the way in. But the part of this practice that appears to have the greatest benefit is the part built on Love.
Final Thoughts
Some people have asked how the GratiJoy practice compares to the work of Joe Dispenza since there appear to be similarities. While I have not attended one of his seminars, I’ve read one of his books and am familiar with his work. There is overlap at the level of physiology, since both practices use breath, attention, and elevated emotions like gratitude and joy to help regulate the nervous system. Joe is also a big fan of the HeartMath Institute and heart coherence practices. Where I think GratiJoy differs is in intention. It is not designed to manifest outcomes or reprogram the future. The GratiJoy practice is present-focused and devotional, using breath and heart coherence to quiet the mind so gratitude and joy can arise naturally from a felt sense of love and connection via a story and music. This practice is simple, short, and you don’t need to go to a multi-day seminar to learn it.
I recently came across a man describing his near death experience and how gratitude became the way he got through a cancer diagnosis. It's worth a few minutes. You can watch here.
Your practice will look different than mine because it will be your story, but the heart of the practice is the same: find a memory, a person, or a moment in time that opened your heart, and start there. Let the story of appreciation become your gateway to the Divine. I wish you luck on your journey. If this resonates with you, try it tomorrow morning and see how your day begins. It’s a great way to start a Masterpiece Day! And as a parting gift, please check out my GratiJoy playlist here. Each song was handpicked for it’s lyrics and the feelings they produce.