THE SOUL
SPIRITUAL THRIVING
“I shall not commit the fashionable stupidity of regarding everything I cannot explain as fraud.” Carl Jung
I believe that cultivating a connection to a higher power is the ultimate biohack. We can use terms like God, the Divine, or the Universe to describe this higher power, but the terms we use are irrelevant in my opinion. It’s the connection to something bigger that matters. This is what Lisa Miller calls transcendent awareness, and it can be an incredibly important component of our overall wellbeing and mental health.
Until now we’ve focused on linear growth through things like a healthy body, but this next phase offers something more profound, which is the possibility of vertical ascension. Vertical ascension is a massive leap in awareness, presence, and joy. Some might call it an awakening.
This is where GratiJoy begins to look at what science is now discovering about experiences mystics and saints have described spiritually for thousands of years. Take the scientific work being done at the University of Virginia Division of Perceptual Studies (DOPS), where researchers explore consciousness beyond the brain, including near-death experiences, children's past-life memories, and verified cases of non-local awareness. Or the powerful research by Dr. Lisa Miller, whose work on transcendent awareness scientifically proves that a spiritual orientation to life enhances mental health and resilience. These aren't fringe ideas anymore. They're gaining ground in peer-reviewed science, and they point to one thing: we are more than just our brains. We are eternal, conscious beings. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.
When we can align our personality with our soul, we experience more peace, more love, and more meaning. Personally, I know that when I live with soul awareness and a connection to a higher power, I feel more grateful, my relationships deepen, my fears diminish, and I move through the world with more trust and less anxiety. All upside with no downside.
This section of GratiJoy is dedicated to spiritual practices and perspectives that open the heart and connect us to something greater. Here are some examples of what you’ll find:
Evidence of the Soul: University of Virginia Division of Perceptual Studies Deep Dives: Exploring scientific studies that point to the survival of consciousness and the reality of the soul.
The Science of Spirituality: Insights from Dr. Lisa Miller on how spiritual practices rewire the brain and protect our mental health.
Heart Coherence: Practices developed by the HeartMath Institute that support emotional regulation and help cultivate a calmer and more heart centered state.
The GratiJoy Meditation Practice: A daily, healing practice I developed that fuses gratitude and joy through story telling and music.
Manifestation: Exploring how our vibration and energy can affect our reality, and how to align with the highest version of ourselves.
A Series on Divine Love: The most powerful spiritual force we know, and how love can become the organizing principle of your life.
Spiritual Masters Series: Timeless wisdom from mystics and spiritual teachers across traditions. Listen here if you are ready to get started!
Evidence of the Soul
“The day science begins to study non-physical phenomena, it will make more progress in one decade than in all the previous centuries of its existence.” - Nikola Tesla
Before I start this section I want you to know that I am not trying to change anyone’s religious views. I’m just trying to present some fascinating evidence that we are more than our minds. That we are spiritual beings. And the only reason I am presenting this information is because we know that a a spiritual connection is scientifically proven to improve our mental health. In fact, it may be the single most important factor in our overall wellbeing. But if you have strong views, are already convinced that you have a soul, and reading about things reincarnation are just going to piss you off, feel free to skip this section.
For many years I’ve been deeply curious about the question of the soul. Do we really have one? And if so, where do we go when we die? Do we reincarnate (some estimates show that 50% of the world believes in reincarnation), and if so, why? These aren’t just abstract ideas to me. They feel like some of the most important questions a human being can ask. My curiosity eventually turned into somewhat of an obsession: if the soul is real, I wanted to find the most legitimate evidence for it. That search led me to the top researchers in near-death experiences, past lives, and past-life regression.
When I first began this journey, I had no opinion on reincarnation. I just knew a large share of the world believed in it so I tried to remain open minded. I expected to find little more than speculation, but instead I was stunned to discover carefully collected data by serious scientists at respected institutions. The work of the University of Virginia’s Division of Perceptual Studies (DOPS) is especially remarkable. Over the past 60 years, Dr. Ian Stevenson and Dr. Jim Tucker have investigated thousands of children who recall past lives. In parallel, Dr. Bruce Greyson, also at UVA, has spent more than 40 years studying near-death experiences, publishing over 100 peer-reviewed papers. Here is a link to what all they do at DOPS. https://med.virginia.edu/perceptual-studies/ And beyond UVA, Dr. Michael Newton, a counseling psychologist, spent decades exploring “life between lives” through hypnosis.
Although I have read many books on these subjects, my recommended sources for this writing are below. I highly recommend checking these out if you are curious.
Life Before Life and Return to Life (Jim Tucker, M.D., UVA psychiatrist).
After (Bruce Greyson, M.D., UVA psychiatrist).
Journey of Souls (Michael Newton, Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology).
Tim Ferriss’ 2024 podcast with Bruce Greyson.
Taken together, these works make an astonishing case: we are spiritual beings, consciousness survives death, and our souls evolve across lifetimes. I realize these are bold claims, but I urge you to keep an open mind. One thing I find helpful is to think of some of the things that seemed unbelievable to our ancestors but now seem so obvious. For example, just over 100 years ago we thought human flight was impossible, even years after it had been proven. The Wright Brothers achieved sustained flight in 1903, but by 1907 many in the world thought they were frauds because major newspapers continued to openly mock them. Everything changed in 1908 when the Wrights finally agreed to public flights so the world could see it with their own eyes. Two weeks ago I flew over 14 hours non-stop to Dubai from Dallas while having access to the internet. How things can change!
Paradigm shifts don’t happen overnight, and I believe we are in middle of one with consciousness. I feel quite confident that my grandkids will look back on this materialistic era with disbelief that such a large percentage of the population believed consciousness is solely created by the brain, despite the fact that this has never been proven and that there has long been evidence pointing beyond such a narrow view.
Reincarnation Evidence: UVA’s Solved Cases
UVA’s Division of Perceptual Studies maintains over 2,500 “solved cases” of children who insist they are someone else. These are typically 2- to 6-year-olds who suddenly begin speaking about another life. They give names, describe family members, identify where they lived, and how they died. Investigators (Stevenson and Tucker) then verify the data from the family and friends of the “previous personality.” A case is only marked “solved” when the details are verified, and thousands have been.
Key statistics:
2,500+ solved cases to date.
Average age when speaking about a past life begins: 2–3 years old.
75% of children describe their death, most often traumatic (suggesting that sudden or violent deaths may make past-life memories more accessible).
Median time between death and rebirth: 15–16 months.
A third of Indian cases involve birthmarks or defects corresponding to fatal wounds; nearly 1 in 5 confirmed by medical records.
One of the most striking contributions of Dr. Ian Stevenson was his monumental two-volume, 2,200-page book Reincarnation and Biology, which documents 225 cases with photographs of birthmarks and birth defects that match the fatal wounds of previous personalities. In many cases autopsy or medical records confirmed the exact wound locations. This remains the most comprehensive published body of physical evidence for reincarnation in history.
Some Examples that defy coincidence:
Boy with gunshot wounds. Born with two birthmarks, one small and round on his chest, the other large and irregular on his back. The “previous personality” had been shot in the chest, with the bullet exiting through his back exactly where the marks were.
Boy with throat scar. Born with a long mark across his neck, he insisted he was murdered by having his throat slit. Records confirmed the prior personality died that way.
James Leininger (U.S.). At age 2, he screamed of crashing in a plane. He gave the name “Natoma” (an aircraft carrier), “Jack Larsen” (a fellow pilot), and described being shot down. Navy records verified every detail matched pilot James Huston Jr., killed in WWII.
The girl who named 25 relatives. One child correctly named 25 family members from a prior life with only one error. The odds of guessing are essentially zero.
Patrick and Kevin (U.S.). Patrick was born blind in one eye and with a limp, identical to his deceased half-brother Kevin. At age 4, Patrick began talking about Kevin’s life.
One or two anecdotes can be brushed aside, but when 2,500 children across cultures and decades give verifiable details, anecdotes become evidence. The point here is not to convince you of reincarnation. The point is to present the evidence that we are more than our physical body.
Near-Death Experiences: What the Dying Tell Us
If reincarnation cases suggest that souls return, near-death experiences (NDEs) suggest where we go when we die. For over 40 years, Dr. Bruce Greyson at UVA has been the leading scientific investigator of NDEs, publishing more than 100 peer-reviewed papers and creating the Greyson NDE Scale, the world’s most widely used tool to study them.
NDEs are no longer rare. With advances in modern medicine and resuscitation technology, millions of people worldwide have now reported them. Studies estimate that 10–20% of patients who suffer cardiac arrest will describe an NDE. Given how many people each year experience clinical death and are revived, this translates into tens of millions of cases globally.
And what’s striking is how consistent these reports are. Across cultures, ages, genders, and religions, experiencers tell the same kinds of stories: leaving their body, encountering overwhelming love, seeing deceased loved ones, undergoing a life review, and being told it was “not their time.”
Patients with NDEs gave detailed, correct accounts of medical procedures that unconscious patients without NDEs consistently got wrong.
This was shown most clearly in a review of 93 out-of-body cases conducted by professor Jan Holden. She found that:
92% of the perceptions were completely accurate.
6% contained some error.
Only 1% were completely wrong.
These patients were not only unconscious, they were in many cases clinically dead, with no heartbeat or measurable brain activity. Yet they described medical procedures, instruments, and even conversations in the operating room with uncanny accuracy.
Key statistics from decades of research:
80% leave their bodies, often observing their own resuscitation from above.
75% report encounters with deceased loved ones or beings of light.
25% undergo a life review, reliving events from both their own and others’ perspectives. Experiencers often say they felt how their actions impacted others.
96% say their NDEs were “definitely real.” Most describe them as “more real than real.”
Long-term effects: Nearly all report loss of fear of death, increased compassion, and a decreased focus on materialism.
Stories that stand out:
The surgeon’s flapping arms: A patient described watching her doctor flap his arms like a bird during surgery. When Greyson asked, the surgeon admitted this was how he dried his hands before surgery.
The shoe on the ledge: A patient insisted she saw a tennis shoe on a third-floor hospital ledge during her NDE during her out of body experience. A social worker checked and found the shoe exactly where she described, which was visible only from above.
Loved ones waiting: Thousands of experiencers report seeing deceased relatives, but some cases are especially striking because the experiencer had no way of knowing the person had died. Stories like these are particularly compelling because they remove the possibility of the experiencer simply projecting their expectations. These encounters involved people whose deaths had not yet been communicated to the patient making coincidence an unlikely explanation.
For example, one man described meeting his sister during his NDE. She told him it wasn’t his time yet. When he later recovered, he learned that his sister had passed away unexpectedly just hours before his cardiac arrest. He could not have known this at the time.
Another experiencer, a young mother, reported being greeted by her grandmother in her NDE. She was shocked to discover later that her grandmother had died that very day, while she was still in the hospital.
What NDEs Mean
Dr. Greyson is cautious. He does not declare NDEs “proof” of life after death. Instead, he presents the evidence and leaves it up to the reader. But the consistency, prevalence, and accuracy of these accounts are impossible to ignore.
As Greyson has said, “Whatever NDEs are, they change people’s lives faster, more profoundly, and more permanently than psychotherapy or drugs.”
Taken together, NDEs suggest that consciousness does not simply end at death. Instead, our consciousness expands, encounters love, reviews its life, and often comes back transformed.
If you are curious to learn more, and especially to hear directly from people who have experienced profound near-death experiences, I recommend exploring the Coming Home Channel on YouTube. It features hundreds of first-person NDE accounts, many of which echo the same themes described in the scientific research: overwhelming love, encounters with loved ones, and the conviction that life continues beyond death.
Journey of Souls: Life Between Lives
While UVA’s work focuses on verifiable external evidence, Dr. Michael Newton, Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, contributed another perspective. Newton was a practicing therapist for 30 years, trained in hypnotherapy, and eventually became the founder of the Newton Institute for Life Between Lives.
Initially skeptical, Newton stumbled into cases where clients under hypnosis described not past lives but the spiritual world between lives. Over decades, he collected reports from more than 7,000 clients.
His clients consistently reported:
Guides and loved ones greeting them after death.
Healing stations of light to restore energy after difficult lives.
Life reviews with wise beings or councils.
We are a part of Soul groups, which are clusters of like-minded souls who reincarnate together as family or friends.
The soul plans new lifetimes in order to revisit unresolved lessons or to accelerate spiritual growth.
The Hierarchy of Souls.
Newton’s research also uncovered a fascinating structure of spiritual development. Based on thousands of client sessions, he observed remarkable consistency in how people described their soul’s progress. From these reports he developed a framework of levels ranging from I to VI, which map the soul’s growth over many lifetimes:
Level I–II: Beginner souls, often still struggling with fear, selfishness, and immaturity.
Level III–IV: Intermediate souls, learning compassion, balance, and responsibility.
Level V–VI: Advanced and master souls, often serving as guides for others.
Each level reflects greater wisdom, vibrational energy, and capacity to love. Souls advance not through perfection, but through persistent growth across many lifetimes.
Newton’s conclusion echoes what some spiritual masters like Gary Zukav have said: the purpose of reincarnation is evolution of the soul. Life is a school, and we return until we have mastered love.
Now let’s address the skepticism that came up for me. Could Michael Newton have made this up? In theory, yes, or perhaps 7,000 clients all unconsciously created similar stories under hypnosis. Critics of hypnosis sometimes raise this possibility. But Newton himself began as a skeptic, and he was surprised when clients started describing the same kinds of “between lives” experiences without prompting. Across decades of work, people from different cultures, religions, and backgrounds consistently reported remarkably similar themes: guides, soul groups, life reviews, and planning future incarnations.
Importantly, there appear to be no credible claims of fraud against Newton. His credentials as a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, 30 years as a therapist, and his membership in professional associations lend further weight. While his findings cannot be “proven” in the same way UVA’s reincarnation cases can, but the consistency of his clients’ reports makes them very compelling: clients from different cultures, backgrounds, and belief systems independently described remarkably similar experiences. Once again, anecdotes converged into patterns.
This is really good news…
When we put these three streams of research together: Stevenson and Tucker’s 2,500 reincarnation cases, Greyson’s decades of NDE studies, and Newton’s 7,000 life-between-lives sessions, the conclusion is profound:
We are spiritual beings.
Consciousness appear to survive death.
Our lives are part of a larger curriculum of growth and love.
This is profoundly good news. Life is not random and death does not appear to be the end. Moreover, unconditional, Divine love, which is the overwhelming force described by near-death experiencers and by souls in Newton’s sessions, appears to be a fundamental part of the fabric of reality. Saints and mystics have been saying this for thousands of years, and science is just catching up.
Pause for a moment and let the weight of this sink in. For me, the awareness that I am an eternal being and unconditionally loved by the Creator of All has completely reshaped my outlook on life. I now see myself as a participant in the “earth school,” here to grow, to face fears, and to evolve.
I know all of this may sound a little far-fetched at first, but when I reflect on the vastness and mystery of our material universe, it actually feels quite reasonable. Think about it: the universe has existed for nearly 14 billion years, with potentially 2 trillion total galaxies, and even today physicists admit that dark energy, which makes up about 75% of the cosmos, is something we don’t really understand. If reality itself is filled with such scale and mystery, is it really such a leap to imagine a complex spiritual dimension? Whatever force or intelligence created this universe surely has the creativity to craft a beautiful spiritual realm as well. And just as the biological world evolves, it makes sense that our souls would evolve too. This reminds me of a quote I recently came across.
“The universe is not only stranger than we suppose, but stranger than we can suppose.”
— J. B. S. Haldane, British geneticist/biometrician/physiologist who is considered a founding figure in modern evolutionary biology.
But what if none of this is true? What if the lights simply go out, and there is no soul, no continuity, and no greater meaning to our lives? Even then, because of my spiritual worldview, I will have spent my life striving to be more loving, compassionate, and grateful. My relationships with family and friends will have been deeper with my days richer in joy. And that is the true upside of spirituality…more love, more gratitude, more joy, with nothing to lose. Contrast this with the alternative: living as if everything is random, meaningless, and rooted in fear. Which path creates a more beautiful life?
It is in this spirit that I return to Gary Zukav’s timeless reminder from Seat of the Soul, a book I will discuss at length later. “If you desire to know your soul, the first step is to recognize that you have a soul. The next step is to allow yourself to consider, ‘If I have a soul, what is my soul? What does my soul want? What is the relationship between my soul and me? How does my soul affect my life?’ When the energy of the soul is recognized, acknowledged, and valued, it begins to infuse with the personality.”
And here is a beautiful tribute to the soul’s enduring light and one of my favorite songs. Soul Sweet Song by Tedeschi Trucks Band.
Lisa Miller, PhD: The New Science of Spirituality and the Awakened Brain
Dr. Lisa Miller is a leading psychologist, researcher, and professor in the fields of spirituality and mental health. She earned her BA from Yale University and her PhD in clinical psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. Currently she serves as a professor at Teachers College, Columbia University, where she founded and directs the Spirituality Mind Body Institute, which is the first Ivy League graduate program integrating spirituality and psychology.
She is a total badass. I first discovered Lisa’s work through her powerful conversation on the Rich Roll Podcast, and I was immediately hooked. Her message resonated so deeply with me that I dove straight into her book The Awakened Brain, which weaves together neuroscience, epidemiology (the study of disease), and clinical psychology to show that spirituality is not only central to human thriving, but that it’s biologically innate in all of us.
I highly recommend that you start with the podcast, and then read the book if you like what you hear. However, I took my kindle notes and the podcast transcript and created a synopsis of her work with a quote from her at the end of each section.
Core Thesis
Miller’s essential claim is both revolutionary and ancient: we are all born with a neurological capacity to experience connection, love, meaning, and guidance from a transcendent source. She calls this capacity “the awakened brain,” and her research shows that when we actively engage it, we become more resilient, less depressed, and more fulfilled. “The awakened brain is the inner lens through which we access the truest and most expansive reality: that all of life is sacred, that we never walk alone.” — Lisa Miller
The Neuroscience of Spirituality: The Awakened Brain in the Scanner
Miller’s lab conducted groundbreaking fMRI and EEG research to study the brain activity of people having a spiritual experience. In one study, participants were asked to recount personal spiritual moments (e.g., feeling connected to God, the universe, or life). Across all spiritual traditions, including those with no tradition or religion at all, she found consistent neural signatures:
Default Mode Network Deactivation: The area responsible for self-focused rumination, which is often overactive in depression, became quiet.
Ventral Attention Network Activation: Open awareness and receptivity increased.
Frontotemporal Activation: This network is associated with experiences of love, presence, and connection.
Parietal Lobe Modulation: Helped dissolve the illusion of separateness and fostered a felt sense of unity with others and with life.
Cortical Thickness and Long-Term Health: Studies showed that the brains of highly spiritual individuals had greater cortical thickness in regions associated with perception and reflection. These are the same areas that shrink in depressed brains. This “high-spiritual brain” is structurally healthier and more resilient over time.
“When we awaken, we feel more fulfilled and at home in the world, and we build relationships and make decisions from a wider view.”
— Lisa Miller
Spirituality Is Heritable and Teachable
Working with epidemiologist Dr. Kenneth Kendler, Miller cites a landmark twin study that found 29% of one’s capacity for spirituality is heritable, while 71% is shaped by life experience, community, and practice. This means that spiritual sensitivity is encoded in our biology, much like musical ability or intelligence. But it also means we can strengthen it with the right practices, relationships, and environments.
“Our spirituality is our birthright.” — Lisa Miller
Spirituality and Mental Health: A Scientific Shield
Miller’s epidemiological research reveals striking correlations between personal spirituality and reduced rates of mental illness. If someone took only one thing away from this entire GratiJoy site, I would hope it is the data below. I find these findings deeply important, not only scientifically, but personally. They also align closely with my own experience in Alcoholics Anonymous, which is a deeply spiritual program that completely changed my life. That healing does not come merely from abstinence or willpower, but from developing a relationship with a higher power.
80% less likely to experience clinical depression among adolescents with a strong personal spirituality, even when factoring in genetics and family environment
75–90% protection from recurrence of depression in adults at high risk
62–82% lower rates of completed suicide, particularly when spirituality is practiced in a communal context
40–80% reduction in substance abuse and addiction in teens with strong spiritual grounding
“Nothing else in clinical or pharmacological mental health—no drug, no talk therapy—comes close to these levels of protection.” — Lisa Miller
Beyond the Brain: The Soul of Her Message
Miller does not shy away from including what some might call “woo woo”, but she grounds these messages in both personal experience and transpersonal science.
“We Are Loved, Held, Guided, and Never Alone”
This phrase, repeated throughout her book and talks, captures the felt experience of awakened awareness. Spiritual perception allows us to tap into a loving consciousness, whether one calls it God, Source, the Universe, or simply Life.
“There is a rhythm and intelligence to the universe, and when we awaken, we can see it. We can trust it. We are never alone.”
Synchronicity and Quantum Entanglement
In The Awakened Brain, Miller draws upon Jungian psychology and quantum physics to explore synchronicity:
She references quantum entanglement as a metaphor for how lives can become interlinked in mysterious ways across space and time.
Spiritual awareness enhances our perception of synchronicities, which are those improbable yet meaningful coincidences that seem to guide us.
“When we see life as alive and guiding, we are in dialogue with it. That’s the awakened path.” — Lisa Miller
Trail Angels
Miller’s message comes alive when we look at how synchronicity shows up in everyday life. Long-distance hikers often speak of “trail angels”, strangers who appear at just the right moment with food, water, or encouragement. These encounters feel more like grace than coincidence, as if the path itself were guiding and providing.
Miller reminds us that life works this way too. We can encounter trail angels, and just as importantly, we can become them by choosing to offer kindness and support that may arrive for someone else as a moment of grace at just the right time. This echoes what Dr. Bruce Grayson has found in his research on near-death experiences. During life reviews, people often relive moments when they were a source of help or comfort for another, and they don’t just recall the event, they actually feel what the other person felt. In this sense, being a “trail angel” is far more than a kind gesture; it is part of the lasting fabric of meaning in our lives, woven into the shared experience of love and connection.
Practices for Cultivating the Awakened Brain
Miller offers both ancient and innovative tools:
Spiritual Storytelling: Recalling and sharing transformative moments.
The Council Exercise: Visualizing guides (loved ones, ancestors, Higher Self) offering support and wisdom.
Synchronicity Tracking: Paying attention to and recording meaningful coincidences.
Nature Immersion: Feeling the life force in natural systems.
Altruism and Love of Neighbor: Empirically the most powerful neural activator of the awakened brain.
Lisa Miller’s work is a bridge between the lab and the soul. She reminds us that the awakened brain is not the privilege of a lucky few, but a birthright available to all of us. What matters is not how we name the source of that awakening, but that we allow ourselves to experience it. For some this connection comes through a religious tradition. For others it arises completely outside of organized religion. In fact, many who identify as spiritual but not religious still believe in a higher power or an underlying intelligence, but they resist rigid definitions of God. They often draw from multiple traditions, including meditation, contemplative prayer, yoga, nature-based spirituality, and insights from psychology or neuroscience. A higher power might be understood as God, the natural world, the intelligence behind the natural world, or simply something greater than ourselves.
I remember being surprised in my first years of AA by how many people were uncomfortable with the word God, so they would choose the group itself as their higher power. I found this so interesting because what keeps a healthy group together is love and care. And many people (myself included) define God in precisely those terms. Miller’s research points to this same truth. When we live from an awakened brain we move from isolation to connection. We begin to trust that “we are loved, we are guided, and we are never alone” regardless of the language we use to describe the source of that love.
Heart Coherence
The journey I’m on is about cultivating both a quiet mind and an open heart. It’s relatively easy to grasp the concept of practicing how to quiet the mind through practices like meditation, breathwork, and mindfulness, but what does it actually mean to open the heart? And how do we practice that?
In 2024 I took a course called The Science of Love taught by Rollin McCraty, Ph.D., a psychophysiologist and Director of Research at the HeartMath® Institute (HMI). That experience helped answer these questions in a way that deeply resonated with me.
According to Rollin, there are scientifically studied techniques we can use to elevate our level of consciousness and expand our capacity for love. He teaches that “The vibrational spectrum of love enables you to heighten your capacity for compassion, kindness, latitude, love, and more—for yourself and others—on an energetic level.”
The course was fascinating, and even better, the practices were easy to incorporate into daily life. Since applying them I’ve felt an increase in love, gratitude, compassion, and intuitive clarity. In what follows I’ll distill 20+ hours of course material into a few pages, covering what heart coherence is, the science behind it, and how you can start practicing it.
The Scientific Definition of Heart Coherence:
Heart coherence is a state of optimal alignment and harmony within and between your physiological, emotional, mental, and energetic systems. It’s most easily observed in the synchronized rhythms of your heart, brain, and nervous system. In measurable terms, heart coherence refers to a smooth, sine-wave-like heart rate variability (HRV) pattern. This state:
Reflects balance between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems
Enhances cognitive clarity and emotional stability
Is most easily achieved through intentional breathing and positive emotional states (like gratitude and/or compassion)
Spiritual Dimension:
On a spiritual level, coherence feels like alignment with your higher self (soul), inner wisdom, or a universal intelligence. It brings peace, presence, and connection, both internally and with the world around you. Practices like heart-focused meditation help us access this deeper coherence, which in turn cultivates intuition, resilience, and emotional elevation.
Simple Heart Coherence Practice
I practice this multiple times per day: In meditation, during a walk, or even silently in a meeting. I personally add it as the second half of my meditation and take several short coherence breaks throughout the day (I set reminders on my phone).
It can be as easy as this step by step process:
Ground yourself and feel your feet on the ground. Connect to your body in some way.
Heart Focus: Gently shift your attention to the area around your heart. Imagine your breath flowing in and out of this space.
Heart Breathing: Breathe slower and deeper than usual. (Remember from the breathwork section that the perfect breath is 5.5 seconds in and 5.5 seconds out) Find a comfortable rhythm.
Activate a Renewing Emotion: Call up a feeling of care/love, compassion, appreciation, or gratitude. Radiate that emotion inward toward your body or outward to someone you love. Let your intuition guide you.
Sustain the Feeling: Stay with it for a few minutes or just 5–10 breaths. The more consistently you do this, the more natural it becomes.
This practice integrates mindfulness, but with the added dimension of emotional resonance. It shifts your physiological baseline over time, making it easier to stay calm and connected even in challenging moments. I sometimes do this silently in groups, intending to “broadcast” care and compassion to those around me. I love how much benefit I receive from such a short, simple practice. This is yet another practice that has nothing but upside.
The Science Behind Heart Coherence
Ilya Prigogine, Nobel laureate in chemistry, described how “small islands of coherence in a sea of chaos can shift the entire system to a higher order.” This principle applies not just to physics, but to human biology and consciousness.
Just as Prigogine’s “islands of coherence” can influence and reorganize chaotic systems, practices that promote heart coherence, such as focused breathing and the cultivation of positive emotions, can help harmonize our physiology. Over time this coherence supports emotional and physical well-being, including a greater ability to self-regulate our emotional state. The ability to self-regulate emotions, thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors is central to most of the stress, health challenges, and relationship issues that people experience. Building the capacity to self-regulate is one of the most important things I am personally working on, and it will be a lifelong process. Here are some reasons why the heart is important in helping to regulate our emotions:
The heart has its own complex nervous system and sends more signals to the brain than vice versa.
These heart signals influence brain regions involved in emotion, decision-making, and perception, especially in the amygdala, which synchronizes with the heart’s rhythm.
By practicing heart coherence, we “reset” this system and create a new emotional baseline, improving our ability to self-regulate in real time.
Energetic Field of the Heart:
Each heartbeat produces a measurable electromagnetic field that radiates 3 to 6 feet from the body in a toroidal (doughnut-shaped) form.
This field reflects your emotional state in real time. Love, gratitude, and compassion create a smooth, coherent field. Stress and fear create a jagged, incoherent one.
Studies show that your heart’s field affects others. In emotionally bonded relationships, heart rhythms can become synchronized, even from a distance.
This means we are contributing to a shared vibrational environment of love and coherence, which are collective forces, but so are negative emotions and vibrations.
Global Impact
HeartMath research has shown that shared states of coherence can influence others, even across great distances. In one global study participants practicing a technique called Heart Lock-In experienced synchronized heart rhythms despite being located in different parts of the world. This suggests we’re all part of a global field, which is basically a living web of energy shaped by our emotions and intentions. The more we consciously cultivate positive emotional states, the more we elevate not just our own lives, but the collective atmosphere. That’s what makes heart coherence such a powerful and beautiful practice.
Advanced Heart Coherence Meditation
For those who want to go deeper, here’s a more immersive version of the practice. By the way, I like to use this song during this part of my meditation
Posture: Seated, spine straight, feet grounded, hands resting on heart or lap
Optional Enhancements: Calm music, HRV monitor, essential oils, or crystals
Step 1: Heart-Focused Breathing
Focus on your heart.
Inhale for 5–6 seconds, exhale for 5–6 seconds.
Imagine light flowing in and out of your heart with your breath.
Let your nervous system begin to entrain to this rhythm.
Step 2: Activate a Regenerative Emotion
Call up a deep emotion such as love, compassion, or gratitude.
Let it saturate your chest. Expand it with your breath.
Step 3: Expand the Field
Visualize this emotion forming a glowing field around your heart.
Imagine the circular flow of energy looping around your body
Feel it strengthen and connect to the Earth’s field.
Optionally send this coherence to loved ones or the planet.
Step 4: Intuitive Listening
Ask a heartfelt question:
“What do I need to know?”
“How can I serve today?”
“What is most true in this moment?”And when I do get an intuitive feeling our thought, I like to ask, “How clean is this?”
Listen with your body, not just your mind.
Step 5: Integration and Closing
Return gently to your body and surroundings.
Give thanks to your heart.
Carry the coherence into your day.
Optional Tools
I highly recommend the HeartMath Inner Balance device. It measures your coherence in real time and helps reinforce the practice with biofeedback. You can find it here: https://store.heartmath.org/inner-balance-coherence-plus.html
It’s not cheap, but if you're serious about opening your heart and deepening your intuition it’s a worthy investment. I’ve used one for years. To learn more about the science and tools behind this practice, I also recommend visiting the HeartMath Institute website.
Final Thought
I’ve spent many hours studying and practicing heart coherence, and I’m convinced that the energetic heart is real. I believe it’s a primary access point to the soul. Many spiritual traditions emphasize choosing love over fear, and heart coherence is a practical, repeatable way to do exactly that. During the course, it was inspiring to hear others share their experiences of more synchronicity, clearer intuition, and deeper peace.
The bottom line is that 1. We can practice being open-hearted. 2. We can broadcast feeling of love and gratitude. 3. We can change the field around us one coherent breath at a time. What a blessing.
GratiJoy Practice
GratiJoy is more than just a concept or an elevated state. It’s a practice that can be improved upon, and this is good news. Neurologically it shows up as gamma waves, but spiritually it is a prayer of thanks to the Creator. GratiJoy also contains reverence and awe, because at its heart it is appreciation for the sheer gift of being alive.
GratiJoy is also about frequency and vibration. As you will hear me say, frequency precedes form, which means our vibration (state of being) comes before our thoughts and behaviors. When we shift our frequency to gratitude and joy, our vibration changes in addition to our entire outlook on life. This practice is a deliberate way of raising that frequency into love, joy, and connection.
My son once asked me if I had a super power, which is a gift that comes naturally that’s been developed to a masterful level. At first I said I didn’t have one. I was pretty good at quite a few different things, but later it struck me: Even with some of my mental health challenges, I’m naturally good at being grateful, and the Gratijoy practice is what I’ve learned to help me cultivate and refine that gift. I’m not sure I can say I’m masterful yet, but I’m giving it the old college try!
I first stumbled into this state on a bike ride, but later discovered it could be cultivated intentionally. Here’s how I learned that and why it matters.
The Gamma Wave Discovery
I had a really interesting and beautiful summer in 2023 while at my place in Colorado. I had been studying quite a few different spiritual masters and had become fascinated with the topic of Divine Love, which I was reading about often. And I was also having daily spontaneous GratiJoy experiences on my bike rides and my hikes. I would be walking in the woods behind my house, and I would begin to feel how much God loved me and how grateful I was for my life. These experiences are hard to describe but they were overwhelmingly blissful, joyous, and based in gratitude. This is when I coined the term GratiJoy.
Fast forward to an evening over dinner with close friends, and I described how these waves of deep gratitude and joy had been coming over me, leaving me with a sense of being connected to something vast and loving. The wife of a close friend of mine, who happens to a neuroscientist and owns a small company specializing in EEG brain scans, listened carefully. She suggested I come in the next morning to her clinic to see what was happening in my brain when I entered that state. I was curious so I agreed. I was also unsure if I would be able to access the GratiJoy state on cue.
The following morning I went on a ride through the Colorado mountains. It was one of those perfect days on one of the most scenic rides in the state. I had several bursts of GratiJoy during the ride, which left me primed and open as I arrived for the scan.
She fitted me with a cap of electrodes, and I sat quietly as the machine recorded. About ten minutes in, she asked me to see if I could conjure up the state I had been describing. I had never tried to summon it deliberately before, but almost instantly I dropped into it. My chest expanded, light seemed to pour in, and the familiar warmth of GratiJoy filled me. During this part of the scan, I heard her say, “My God” several times. I was instructed not to speak so I remained silent and curious.
When the session ended, she looked at me quietly and explained what she was seeing. During the period when I entered that state, my brain showed sustained gamma wave activity for several minutes, which is something she said she doesn’t often see, even in people with significant meditation experience.
I don’t pretend to fully understand what that means neurologically, and I’m cautious about over-interpreting it. I only know what it feels like, which is a deep sense of gratitude and connection. After a long pause, she said, “You should teach this. People need to know how to access states like this.”
Why Gamma Matters
Gamma waves are the fastest brain rhythms (30–100 Hz, sometimes higher). They link different parts of the brain together, allowing insights and memories to converge into what we know as “a-ha!” moments. Normally, these bursts last only seconds.
But research by Richard Davidson and Antoine Lutz at the University of Wisconsin showed that advanced Tibetan monks could generate massive, synchronized gamma activity across their whole brains while meditating on compassion, and hold it for minutes at a time. Gamma has since been called a neurological signature of mystical experience: a measurable imprint of states people describe as transcendent, blissful, or sacred.
Gamma also shows up in flow states, which are moments when athletes, artists, and musicians lose themselves in effortless performance. Creativity, insight, unity, and presence all seem to ride on gamma waves. Even more compelling, Davidson and Lutz found that in seasoned meditators, this gamma coherence persisted even at rest. In other words, their practice had changed their baseline neurology.
So when my friend showed me my data and insisted I share my experience, I realized I had stumbled onto something that bridged science and spirit. Neurologically it’s gamma while spiritually, I think you can call it grace. Two languages describing the same thing. But I wanted to figure out how to quickly access this state without the need for a bike ride in the mountains.
Before we move into the next section, here’s a short video to prepare you to be GratiJoyous. Think of it as a primer for the heart, and a way to soften and open before you step into the practice. It’s only a few minutes and worth the time.
→ Watch here
My Daily Practice
Over months of experimentation, I found a way to access the GratiJoy state in the comfort of my own home. It doesn’t require a long hike or bike ride, although I often still experience spontaneous GratiJoy bursts when I am in nature with a high heart rate. Below is what works for me, and as you will see later, this practice is backed up by some of the latest science on an effective gratitude practice.
1. Priming the System
Before I begin the actual GratiJoy practice, I spend about 10–15 minutes priming my nervous system. This includes a session of Wim Hof breathing, followed by a HeartMath-style heart coherence meditation. These help me move into a coherent brain–heart state and likely primes my neurochemistry for what’s to come.
The Wim Hof method gets my system energized and clear, while the HeartMath practice helps me shift into a calm, open-hearted state. By the time I start the GratiJoy visualization, I’m fully present and physiologically aligned.
2. Choose a Powerful Image and Story
Find a photo that elicits strong feelings of love, gratitude, or joy. Below is my photo. I'm two years old, sitting with my grandmother, who was one of the most important people in my life. She taught me to love the natural world and, more importantly, made me feel deeply unconditionally loved and accepted. Just looking at this image gets me very grateful, very quickly. It also likely captures one of my first moments of being amazed by the natural world.
Credit to Mr. Rogers for this idea. He often invited people to reflect on someone who “loved them into being.”
→ Here’s a beautiful 1-minute video of him doing just that.
3. Add Music That Opens You
Choose a song that evokes similar emotions. My go-to song is I Can Feel You Smiling by Tedeschi Trucks.
→ Listen here on Spotify
My body is grounded after the breathing and my mind is calm after the meditation. I then gaze at the photo, close my eyes, and let the music take me into memory and emotion. I visualize my grandmother with outstretched arms, smiling down on me. I picture golden light filling my body. I feel her love, and sometimes invite family and friends into my field of gratitude and compassion. Not every day, but most days I become overwhelmed with gratitude and joy. This sure feels like a mystical experience to me, and one thing I have come to believe. I think this state is healing. It makes common sense to me that if we know scientifically that stress is detrimental to our physiology, why wouldn’t a state like GratiJoy prove to be the opposite? I’ve done this most mornings for almost two years, and I am convinced this has strengthened my immune system.
While the feeling of GratiJoy is lovely, I’ve learned not to chase it by putting too much pressure on myself. When it comes it’s a gift, and when it doesn’t that’s okay too. What matters is the practice, because each time we touch GratiJoy I think we reveal more of our soul, and with practice the doorway opens with greater ease.
The Science of Why This Works
As Dr. Andrew Huberman explains in his podcast on the science of gratitude, the most effective gratitude practices aren’t just lists. They’re stories of emotionally rich experiences in which you feel love, appreciation, or the receipt of thanks. That’s what makes them biologically potent.
Here are a few of the key takeaways:
Real emotional stories (not lists) are what shift our biology.
Gratitude increases dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin, which are the neurotransmitters linked to joy, focus, love, and creativity.
Reduces amygdala activity, which decreases fear and anxiety.
Decreases inflammatory cytokines, sometimes on par with exercise.
Improves empathy and social connection even beyond the specific gratitude target.
Huberman also notes that cyclic breathing can help regulate the nervous system to support a gratitude practice. I use Wim Hof breathing, but he says even simpler techniques like box breathing or physiological sighs work. A physiological sigh is a double inhale through the nostril followed by a slow exhale out of the mouth, and according to him it quickly restores balance and calm.
Final Thoughts
Some people have asked how the GratiJoy practice compares to the work of Joe Dispenza since there appear to be similarities. While I have not attended one of his seminars, I’ve read one of this books and am familiar with his work. There is overlap at the level of physiology, since both practices use breath, attention, and elevated emotions like gratitude and joy to help regulate the nervous system. Joe is also a big fan of the Heart Math Institute. Where GratiJoy differs is in intention. It is not designed to manifest outcomes or reprogram the future. The practice is present-focused and devotional, using breath and heart coherence to quiet the mind so gratitude and joy can arise naturally from a felt sense of love and connection via a story and music. This practice is simple, short, and you don’t need to pay to go to a 5-day seminar to learn it. It’s 100% free of charge.
Your practice may look different than mine because it will be your story, but the heart of the practice is the same: find a memory, a person, or a moment that opens your heart, and start there. Let the story of appreciation become your gateway to the Divine. I wish you luck on your journey. If this resonates with you, try it tomorrow morning and see how your day begins. It’s a damn good way to start a Masterpiece Day!